What is Anger?
Anger is a very common and normal response to stressors when you feel you have been insulted or injured. Where you get tripped up is how you manage this anger.
Letting things build up to the point where you end up exploding on those around you is an ineffective way of managing these strong emotions. It can damage precious relationships and leave you feeling full of guilt and shame at once again hurting those around you, whether that be physical or verbal assaults.
Equally damaging is avoiding individuals or situations because you fear you might not be able to control your actions. You might think this avoidance is a win, you didn't explode, but in reality you missed out on what could have been an enjoyable experience and time spent with family and friends.
Common Symptoms of Anger:
Physical Symptoms -
- Clenching your jaw or grinding your teeth
- Stomach ache
- Increased and rapid heart rate
- Sweating, especially your palms
- Feeling hot in the neck/face
- Shaking or trembling
Emotional Symptoms -
- Feeling like you want to get away from the situation
- Sad or depressed
- Wanting to strike out verbally or physically
Other Symptoms -
- Rubbing your head
- Cupping your fist with your other hand
- Getting sarcastic
- Losing your sense of humor
- Acting in an abusive or abrasive manner
- Craving a drink, a smoke or other substances that relax you
- Raising your voice
- Beginning to yell, scream, or cry
How can Counseling/Therapy help?
Because anger can be so destructive to relationships, it is important that therapy seek to assist you in learning how to manage your angry outbursts. In addition probing your anger’s roots including underlying, painful emotions and identifying healthy coping strategies is an essential part of therapy. In addition, improving your ability to effectively communicate and repairing damaged relationships.